When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. Manuel J. Smith
ISBN: 0553263900,9780553263909 | 352 pages | 9 Mb
When I Say No, I Feel Guilty Manuel J. Smith
You may have a guilty feeling which makes you give a “yes” to the request while it actually deserves a “no”. Avoid such situations and learn how to say no without feeling guilty. If you're like me, you have a tough time saying, “No.” As a recovering people-pleaser, I want to be helpful to people. Thats hard and I feel guilty when I speak up. If you can never say no to someone just because you feel guilty while doing it, people can take advantage of you being so nice. I guess it's mostly because the Shadchan or person whose idea the shidduch was makes us feel guilty for saying no. I'm Okay—You're Okay, Games People Play, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am?, When I Say No I Feel Guilty, and Love, by Leo Buscaglia, among others, were my mother's daily reading. Unfortunately, it may not be easy to say “no” when someone asks you for something. I used to have a huge problem with saying "no" to just about anyone. While I'm not as assertive as I'd like to be yet, there is a book I'd. I just hate disappointing them. It goes on and on, and each choice leaves me with a guilty feeling when I say no to someone or don't complete a task that I feel was my responsibility. Im learning now to be a little more assertive and say no. This week alone, when I had to decline the matches, EVERY shadchan asked me why I was saying 'no'.